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One of these days I will have the time to write something about what's going on in my life, but for now I'll stick to more food for thought:

- Glee's Gay Suicide PSA: It got worse: This article perfectly summarizes why the episode left me with a very bitter taste. Ironically, Allie and I came home to watch that episode right after I'd given a lecture about sexuality and schooling and seriously, I could have used the episode as a perfect example of everything that we're doing wrong about homophobia in schools. Bah. (On a much nicer note, the lecture went awesome and I heard from a number of students that they really enjoyed it. I feel like it was the best one I've given so far.)

- On this topic, I have to link this wonderful blog post by a mom whose 5-year-old boy wanted to dress up as Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween. It's both heartening and maddening to read about the kind of stress a child has to go through when he disrupts gender expectations, but if I can be that great a mom one day, I'll be happy.

- Also, a bunch of people have started a Write Your Principal letter campaign, where basically you commit to sending letters to principals of schools that you've attended growing up, and letting them know that you expect them to do something about homophobia in their schools and to question the heteronormative school culture they might be perpetuating (OK, that last one may be mostly me, but it would be awesome if that was included). This is meant for the U.S. but I would encourage anyone who can to do this. People in schools need to realize that people care even after they graduate, and even when they don't have kids in the school system.

On a totally different note...

- As a follow-up to my last posts, I wanted to post a few links on why the Rally to Restore Sanity was, in some ways, extremely problematic. It's partly the ablism of the title, which is not even where I went first because I sometimes suck at noticing ablism (my own and society's)(thanks to [ profile] lounalune for calling me out on it). More generally, I loved this post because it touched on almost everything I had in mind, as someone who very much loves Jon Stewart and his show and yet sometimes feels very ambivalent about it. I particularly love this section, in response to part of the speech that Jon gave at the end of the rally:
“So, why would we work together? Why would you reach across the aisle to a pumpkin assed forehead eyeball monster? If the picture of us were true, our inability to solve problems would actually be quite sane and reasonable. Why would you work with Marxists actively subverting our Constitution or racists and homophobes who see no one’s humanity but their own?”
Why indeed, Jon? Why indeed would you say such things about people on the right, making it impossible to work with them? Except, of course, that it’s not your rights being denied. It’s not you who can’t marry your girlfriend, who when you look down the road at your potential futures see the horror of not being able to protect your assets together, or even be by each other’s side at a hospital bed. It’s not you who have had to fight all your life to get your gender accepted, even grudgingly, as a legal reality, not you who will have whispers following you the rest of your life or who fears to publish things under your own name because it outs your entire life history. It’s not you who worry that you’re getting older and a woman in an industry that is not known for accepting women, not you who are worrying that if you get fired from your job you may never find another one like it.
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There are few issues where the sexism inherent to homophobia is more visible than on the question of same-sex parenting. I'm watching an episode of 30 Days where a woman (mom) who opposes gay couple raising kids is sent to a same-sex parented family for a month.

Three minutes into the episode and she declares, "if you're raised in a gay and lesbian environment, you're just not going to get both sides of the story. you're going to get two mom points of view, you're going to get two dad points of view and it's just not the best possible environment to raise a child." Of course, the question then becomes... what on earth is a "mom point of view" or a "dad point of view"? That's a rhetorical question, obviously, we all know what the stereotypical mom and dad are like. But boy, that's a very limited view of gender roles...

And actually, a minute later, great answer to this by one of the gay dads: "when someone tells me every child needs a mom, I say if you mean that every child needs someone who's warm and loving and nurturing and supportive of their kids... we do that." It would have been nice to point out there's no reason this role has to be fulfilled by a woman, but that's a good start. :)

Interestingly enough, the woman (I need to get her name so I stop calling her that) speaks of putting the gay family "to the test". I say interesting because families are not usually put to the test unless they've been proven unfit through social services for example. Gay families are in the very interesting position that, solely because the child is going to be raised by a gay couple, we find it appropriate to scrutinize. This does not happen with single-parent households, a necessary parrallel to draw whenever you're talking same-sex parented households; I wonder if it's because we unconsciously think the simple possibility of an opposite-sex parent (in the case of straight single parents) entering the child's life as some point had any sort of consequence?

First day of school for the kids - one of the dads (I'm going to learn their names, too, promise) has this little speech to their kids about how they can decided whether or not to tell their friends and their teacher knows and it's going to be okay and all that. Katie (the woman!) recognizes that this is a lot of weight to put on a 6-year-old's shoulders, but she seems stuck on the idea that kids shouldn't know about gay couples this early on and that's the problem. When really, the only reason the decision to tell other kids or not rises from the fact that other kids might be unwelcoming of such information and thus other kids might make that 6-year-old's life difficult, not his two dads. Where does the fault lie? It's at the crux of everything, and I'm curious to see if Katie will come to see differently by the end of this month.

"For me to hear that the children are learning at a very young age that it's okay to be like that, it's a little bit scary like that." That's, really, what it comes down to and I really like that Katie's being upfront about it. I'm a little annoyed by the COLAGE people who misunderstood her and started going on about how the kids are not learning to be gay. Katie's right - the kids are absolutely learning that it's okay to be gay. Just like kids raised by parents of two different races would integrate very early on that biracial love is all right. Suddenly the problem has shifted from kids needing a mom and a dad to kids learning that gay is okay. Why isn't gay okay? That's what the women from COLAGE should have discussed with Katie.

A teenager having been raised by her mom and her female partner (plus her dad and his female partner) explains that she's happy her mom decided to be true to herself and live out her homosexuality because the teen believes it would have been a pretty bad upbringing if her mom had been unhappy. "Happy homes raise good kids. Unhappy homes don't."

Now a young woman who was raised by a gay dad who'd talk about bathhouse sex at the kitchen table and would talk her to sex shops when she was very young. Um, anyone want to point out the problem might be with that specific individual and his conception of parenthood rather than with his being gay? Katie also just said there is an icky factor for her with the thought of two men sleeping together with kids down the hall. How is that different from a mom and a dad having sex down the hall? I hope this is going to be raised again. Sexuality is super important in the sense that we make it central when it's not. At least it's not central to homosexuality more than it is to heterosexuality.

"But when gay couples try to have children, human anatomy wins out every time." (Morgan's narrator voice) Two problems with that: first and foremost, gay couples are not infertile, they just can't produce offspring together. This goes much further than we can right now but we really need to question this obsession we have with biological filiation. Second thing, that's got little incidence on the whole issue since nobody's suggesting we stop infertile couples from having kids via adoption or alternative methods.

Dude. In San Francisco at least, you could make $8,000 a year if you donate sperm twice a week for a year. That's impressive. Bothers me a little since that's only an option available for men but I suspect that's me being picky and annoying.

I really have a problem with the way that Katie is making this a battle for laws - "we'll see who wins". First of all because I think it's very unhealthy to present it as a war, it's likely to leave much deeper wounds like this. At the same time it's a reality that people feel they're both defending the "right" side. But truly my problem is that this isn't happening on equal ground, and there's a real problem with the majority deciding what rights a minority can or cannot have - based on a random common characteristic of a minority group (here, sexual orientation) rather than on an element that's been proven to be hurtful to children in itself.

Katie - like a lot of people out there who are opposed to same-sex parenting - are ultimately uncomfortable with homosexual behavior, meaning really, sexual behavior, which is amazing to me, because that really, really doesn't touch how people raise their families. Moreover she's making assumptions about how Tom and Denis have (or don't have, who knows) sex. I wish she'd get to discuss that with someone.

Fascinating - Denis and Tom have invited over one of their adopted son's biological family, including an aunt and uncle who took care of him for a while, and they're the ones who are being most hostile to Katie's moral judgement which is based on something she's decided on rather randomly (and because of what her church told her) rather than based on facts and knowledge of the situation. Anyway, so the aunt is being really angry that Katie doesn't want gay and lesbian families to raise kids because the aunt says why does it matter, and woah, that should mean a lot coming from a straight woman who's had to deal with a foster situation. (Why does it matter - because of the openness of homosexuality and lesbianism, says Katie... what openness? Sexual openness or open-mindedness to homosexuality? These are too radically different things and I'm surprised she hasn't said anything about that considering we've yet to see Denis and Tom peck.)

"Our fear is that having her beliefs challenged is not opening her mind but rather cementing her opposition." (Tom? I think.) That's the real difficulty when dealing with those situations - you have to challenge but not attack. People are going to be very uncomfortable and they need a space where they can learn to ride out this discomfort. P-FLAG (and in France, Contact) are usually a good space for that but in the context of the show, Katie is not getting that and I think that's not helping.

"I know it in my heart that I am right." Hm. See, that's a big problem I have with a lot of religious people. Now, there's nothing wrong about feeling right, we all do; but there is a point where belief needs to be supplemented with facts. And if facts don't match belief, there is nothing wrong with reevaluating beliefs. There's nothing belittling about that, but it always feels like we're losing, and it shouldn't. We would really be better off teaching kids that it's okay to learn and adapt what we think based on what we know.

For Katie there is also a very, very strong religious component that makes her unwavering in what she believes. I wish we would talk to an open-minded priest for example. I think that could really help to see how some people (straight, gay or religious authorities) manage to reconcile the reality that same-sex parented families can (can, not necessarily are) be good homes with her god's words.

At the end, Tom pretty much tells Katie he doesn't think he can be friends with someone who's so fundamentally opposed to what has brought wonders to his life and Katie leaves upset. I understand why she would be, but isn't it amazing? That we could be expected to be rejected and take it; even be friends with the people who reject us. Turn the other cheek - isn't that what Christians are supposed to do? Yet if we do that, it still doesn't make us any less sinful because ultimately, homosexuality trumps everything else that we are and do as humans.

"Everybody is allowed to have their feelings." Katie is remarkable for at least admitting that. But like Tom says at some point, the problem is when someone takes their feelings and tries to turn it into laws by banning gay couples from adopting. That doesn't allow everyone to have their feelings - that forces everyone to act according to one group's beliefs.

Anyway - so after the episode around animal rights where we really saw progress in the guy's attitude, this one was vaguely disappointing. Because of the outcome but also because there is so much more I would have liked to see, as someone who knows a lot of this issue. The outcome wasn't unexpected, though, especially because of the religious aspect that ties the issue to a greater value system and makes it feel like changing opinion on this one thing threatens the whole value system. Plus people are often very slow to change opinion on gay issues, because it's engrained so deep inside us... and we have this amazing capacity to say "I like you as a person and think you make a great parent but I disagree with the idea of homosexuality thus I feel entitled to forbid you from having kids". The contradiction would be funny if it didn't affect thousands of lives - of parents and kids alike.

I'm not so naive as to think it's all going to be all right, but this kind of thing reminds me just how difficult it will be to be able to reach that point where gay and lesbian are treated just like everyone else and not judged on who they love alone.
greenie_breizh: (joss is boss)
SO. I told myself I would WORK a little before taking off to pick up my family at the airport but there is JUST TOO MUCH AWESOME HAPPENING.

Dollhouse promos. And I LOVE this shot. Eliza Dushku au naturel (or the pretense of it anyway) is so fucking attractive. NGH. The way she's dressed is just perfect and barefoot and. She's gorgeous. AND NOW I CAN MARRY HER IN CALIFORNIA.

Whedon interview wicked coolness.

Exciting 10 Dollhouse spoilery facts.


It's been confirmed the show will have not 7 but 13 episodes (YAY) and it will premiere in January on Monday night as a lead-in for 24. Which makes me very hopeful that FOX is serious about their commitment to the show and I really, really hope so because the more I learn about the premise the more awesome and complex and interesting it sounds and I'm so afraid it won't appaeal to an audience broad enough to be of interest to FOX. C'MON AMERICA DON'T FAIL ME ON THIS. Especially since the way it's going you're going to fail me in the real world with the November election. *facepalm*

I'm also terribly, terribly excited because this will be the first Whedon show I follow from the start: I got into Buffy late, we had to wait for Angel to come out in VHS to get it (ah, old times of no speedy internet), and I totally dropped the ball on Firefly (Western doesn't appeal to me, neither does sci-fi - why would I watch? I WAS SUCH A FOOL). And now HEEEE I cannot WAIT for this!!!

And in an hour I'll be on the road to go pick up my family! Hee!
greenie_breizh: (snuggle time)
From Wayne, Year 9 (quoted in the chapter Lesbian and Gay Issues in the Curriculum by Patrick & Sanders, in the book by Debbie Epstein, Challenging Lesbian and Gay Inequalities in Education (1994)):


I came home from a party last Friday night.
Boy oh boy what a fright.
My parents found my letter from Joe.
I guess I really love him so.
They asked me a million questions.
What was it like? Don't you feel sick?
I can't take it anymore, let me out quick.
'So you're a bender?' No I'm not
The word is Gay you know!
You love me and I love you,
And also I love Joe.

What's great is that the boy wrote this poem as a result of in-class work on LGBT issues and so there's 90% of chance he leans more towards girls himself. And yet that didn't stop him putting himself into the shoes of a boy his age that would have feelings for another boy. It's a very powerful mental exercise to effectively address feelings of discomfort/homophobia around LGBT people.

On a vaguely related note, I've started the new season of The L Word and OMG I want to STAB Jenny. Possibly even more than before, and I didn't really think that was possible. I also want to see lots more Max (who's really, really cute, even more than before, I feel) and I really wish he'd get together with the super cute sign language interpreter. That would be just perfect. <3
(And Torchwood is tonight but I'm totally failing to get excited so far. I think I'm underwhelmed by the thought of Masters being on the show.)

PS. Anyone in England knows what the fuck an INSET is??
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I just turned in my first digital paper! Yep, was the highlight of my day - my life's so exciting. (And btw, that's not true, my day was better than just that.)

I've been firming up L.A. plans, though I'm still waiting to buy my bus tickets. Right now I have a picket line to join to support writers, a plunge to take to raise awareness about climate change, a midnight screening of Serenity to attend, and a Power Animal gig to go to. It's going to be a busy trip, but it should be fun!

I've caught up on shows, and this week was really good. I've been watching most shows for nothing but entertainment. I'm involved with the storylines and the characters, but pretty superficially so - as in I enjoy the shows while I watch them, but they don't get under my skin, y'know? I don't think about them once the episode is over, and until I have the next one to watch. But this week Grey's really took me in, which was the point I guess, since it's a two-parter, and I really can't wait for this week's episode. The best was Dexter though - I found myself awwing at the screen in a way I hadn't while watching a TV show in a while. Like I was genuinely delighted for the characters and I love that, it's an awesome feeling. The main plotline's got me hooked, too, and I really can't wait to see what happens in this week's episode. Of course, it's not that I'm really getting into it that the season's going to end! *g*

I haven't been so good about posting links and strike stuff lately, mostly because I've been busy with the term papers so I've not had a chance to catch up really regularly. I will mention that if you haven't yet, you should buy a few pencil boxes - they're trying to reach half a million pencils and they're a little over halfway there!

I...had a WGA video called "Who's on the line" that I wanted to share, but it's been removed from Youtube. I don't know why. :/ I can't still share this one, though! It's a short movie with David Schwimmer and Kate Beckinsale. :)
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A long interview by Joss Whedon at the AV Club. I haven't had time to read through it all yet, but, I love this bit:

With Buffy, I needed closure, because she, poor girl, had earned it. Buffy is about growing up. Angel is really about already having grown up, dealing with what you've done, and redemption. Redemption is something you fight for every day, so I wanted him to go out fighting. People kept calling it a cliffhanger. I was like, "Are you mad, sir? Don't you see that that is the final statement?" And then they would say "Shut up."

I think that's exactly why I liked Angel's ending better than Buffy, though I could never have put it in words.

Everyone who's responded to my previous post about the basement suite, thank you so much. It looks like it's going to work out for the apartment, more about that later. I didn't get the job I really wanted, though. Such is life, I suppose.
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Random link / rec of the day :
A very interesting post about the word canon and the whole sub/Dom/top/bottom terminology by [ profile] technosage.

Also, just discovered Piers Faccini thanks to [ profile] fan_elune and I love his style. Right now I'm obsessed with "Circles around you" and "Come the harvest", which I both find so sadly beautiful.

Watched The Office today for the first time, the episode directed by Joss Whedon - and god, that show makes my heart ache with quiet sadness. It's so horrible in a way. I don't think I could actually watch it regularly. Just too painful, the everyday, insignificant sort of pain, but in a way it strikes so much closer to home than anything else.
greenie_breizh: (veronica mars)
Interesting article about Veronica Mars and Buffy over here. Don't forget to read the comments, because they make extremely valid points. The cynicism of VM is actually something I enjoy, but I love Buffy's slightly hopeful outlook too.

This website keeps surprising me. It's called Faith in America and it's meant to fight religious-justified bigotry, basically by saying, the Bible was never meant to condone discrimination. I haven't had a chance to read through all the material, but the ads are pretty striking, to start with. I wonder what kind of impact it will actually have on Christians.

We've been going to the movies. I saw La doublure, which I really liked. Gad Elmaleh is adorable, and both girls were gorgeous. Plus, it actually was funny (not hilarious, but still). Yesterday was Rent, which I felt a bit unsure about because musicals aren't really my thing. I enjoyed it, and I have to admit the music's growing on me (we've been listening to the soundtrack ever since pretty much) though there's usually always one bit of the song that I like a lot less than the rest of it, which is too bad.

What's happening in Rennes (they're blocking the university for another week) is making wonder what's really gonna happen at my university. I should really go see what's happening tomorrow.

Oh, and [ profile] littlegothsin - d'you want come to the Nuit Rose next weekend then? :)
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Quick, quick update as we can't stay much longer on the computers. Trip back went absolutely fine, except it was LOOOONG. Waiting everywhere and all the time, argh. Thank Joss for [ profile] yodah, who came all the way from Rennes to pick us up and took us to McDonald's where we almost didn't annoying the poor guy behind the counter at 10:45PM.

Now we're back and staying at my grandparents' cuz the Icelandic guys are still at our place. Meeting them tonight. Got the game of Risk and hopefully will be playing with Yod soon!! Mwah-ah-ah. I hope everybody doesn't turn against me this time.

On a total different note, YAY!!!! [ profile] fan_elune's present has finally arrived, it's the complete collection of Michael Moore's TV show The Awful Truth. Wheee! I so can't wait to show her the episode of the Sodomobile :) :) :)

Also, my two CDs arrived!!! I finally have Pacific Blue back and I can't wait to listen to the soothing orca songs... hmmmm. Second CD is the very new CD by awesome band Gaelic Storm. I love those guys. Can't wait to read what they have to say on the CD.

Anyway, going. Have a lot to do, including some praying that tomorrow the IEP will be able to provide me with some kind of replacement "convocation", otherwise I'm seriously screwed. I'd hate it. Stupid, stupid, stupid me. Also, have to work on getting Protest back on track. And the gallery, eventually.
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Wheee!! Finally managed to create a correct icon (with less frames!) and it's now my default icon :) :) Also, community's getting bigger every day and that's good :-p ;)

While on the gay topic, I found this great article on about homosexuality in animals. It's very funny at times, and interesting to read. Check it out here. You'll need to watch a short commercial to access the whole article, but it's really no big deal.

On a totally different (therefore not gay) topic, as you guys might know, [ profile] fan_elune and I have been invited by our friend Antoine to participate in a panel about Buffy during that big French convention about TV series. It's going to be on Sunday, August 29 (yes, that's next week) at 2:00 PM and it'll last for an hour and a half. There'll be five of us total debating and all and it should be real fun.

If you want to come and see, YOU HAVE TO REGISTER. To do so, go here and do so quick, cuz they're running out of room. Hopefully, I'll see some of you guys there. (And btw, *so* weird to see my name written down on the program. Eeep.)

Oh, and of course :

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, [ profile] pee_wai!!!!
greenie_breizh: (close-up kiss)
I've found out that Ellen's coming out episode on the show "Ellen" (wow so much originality I'm gonna die) is called The puppy episode (Joss knows why) and so I've started reading and Joss, it has *hilarious* passages!! Kudos to that site for the transcript.

read some ellen goodness )

Will add more later as I am supposed to be writing a history paper and manage to make my way to the shower that's probably been taken over by over-excited seniors worried about the way their hair will look tonight. Whiiiiz.

Oh, also? Am pretty much done with the basic design of CDM's new version, which makes me a happy camper.

Have just added some more, lol, I can't wait to receive the books I requested wheee!! Also, history paper shaping up.


May. 19th, 2004 09:59 pm
greenie_breizh: (in bed)
Long day, need sleep... bless late first period on Thursdays...

Ieva's presentation was really interesting tonight, but the part about GE food made me cringe. Like, really.

SPOILERS for Angel's series finale )

Printed out contact sheets for the pictures I took over the weekend and will probably be doing a lot of printing in the next couple of weeks... Am going crazy over the US's lack of public transportation which means you need a freakin' car to get around, which in turns mean I need other people to go around and I HATE IT. Arrgggh.

Eep had other stuff to say I guess but my brain's not cooperating anymore... eep. Also, I wish someone would have made me realize I was gay a little while ago. And I don't like feeling like everything's happening at once. I mean it's like last August. For 18 years my life was almost uneventful on that front and all. Also, wish BAGLY would have several dances. And why, why am I too nice to freaks and creeps. Oh well. At least I know some damn cool people too.



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