Will we think about tomorrow like we think about now?

Random gay moment of the day : We have a "lesbian toilet stall" at university, where random lesbians wrote stuff down (don't even ask why people do that). Anyway, today I happened to walk in there and some new stuff had been written, namely "Boys on boys action!" and something like "The power of slash!". I almost giggled. Slash will overcome all!

That said, this morning wasn't funny at all. We had two debates, first one which went well, pretty common, students didn't ask many questions or anything. The second one the teacher said would be a little harder, the students had apparently responded quite strongly when they were told a debate about homophobia was being organized. And indeed, they were a lot more all over the place and had so many stereotypes about gay people. People turn gay because they're not successful with the opposite sex, they feel like women (for men), they're all effiminate, yada yada yada. I can take pretty much any of theses sterotypes without as much as flinching because I've heard them so many times.

And then we started talking about the roles of men and women. It all stemmed from the fact we were challenging the preconception that in a gay couple, one of the partners plays the part of the man, and the other one the part of the woman. And it was so, so very depressing to listen to them. They were mostly girls, and only girls spoke up about the topic. There was this one guy who tried a couple of times to say he disagreed, but that's all. Beyond the fact most of them seemed to think the goal in one's life is to get married and have children, they were so close-minded about man/woman relationships. The man has to protect. Virility matters, and imagine if someone jumps you in the street of course your man should defend you and it's not your role. When I suggested a guy could be comforted by his girlfriend, they seemed to think this would just be strange. And discussing this with them, trying to explain that we decide it's a man's role to be protective and strong and that there's nothing wrong with not going along with that, it was mentally so tiring, and so frustrating. I almost wanted to yell at them for thinking it was their place to be the "weak gender".

It's just so disappointing. And this depresses me to no extent, much more than all the homophobia they throw at us in those debates. Because it's girls, saying all this. Giving up, except not even, because they see no reason to fight in the first place. They just accept the role that was chosen for them. Urgh. And the fact I don't know, I have no clue what to say to show them they shouldn't accept that, makes it more frustrating. I've got weapons to fight homophobia, to a certain extent. I have no weapons to fight this attitude.

I hate my gender sometimes. *sigh*


The guy who disagreed rocked, though. He was so open-minded, even told us about getting hit on by a guy after the debate, and how sometimes he likes to dress up as a girl for parties and he'll take a guy friend's hand so that some annoying girl stops bothering him. He made me thought of you, pee_wai, because he was so at ease with everything.