greenie_breizh: (sean)
Sean is coming out to the public.

He told me a few weeks ago that he'd finally decided to do it, and I felt really happy for him that he felt like he could take that step. It's a pretty big, scary step to take for anyone who's been in the habit of keeping quiet for so long, and it's obvious from the article how liberating this is for him. I actually think the article is really great - very touching and honest, the writer did a great job.

So. I'm delighted for him. :) :)
greenie_breizh: (gay)
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] darkspirited1 at SIGNAL BOOST: SAY YES TO GAY YA
This comes from an article by [livejournal.com profile] rachelmanija entitled, Say Yes to Gay YA.
(click the link for the full article)


Our novel Stranger has five viewpoint characters; one, Yuki Nakamura, is
gay and has a boyfriend. Yuki's romance, like the heterosexual ones in
the novel, involves nothing more explicit than kissing.

An agent from a major agency, one which represents a bestselling YA novel in the same genre as ours, called us.

The agent offered to sign us on the condition that we make the gay
character straight, or else remove his viewpoint and all references to
his sexual orientation.


This isn't about that specific agent; we'd gotten other rewrite requests before this one. Previous agents had also offered to take a second look if we did rewrites… including cutting the viewpoint of Yuki, the gay character.


It's time to stand up and demand change. Spread the word everywhere if you are just as angry and outraged by this.

greenie_breizh: (gay)
I forgot yesterday that I had a bunch of French links I wanted to share!

First the website Vie de meuf; reading it is a great, unwelcome reminder of the kind of sexist crap that women still have to hear every day. A recent post about porn made me think that I would disagree on some things with the feminists who maintain the website, but it's a pretty cool resource regardless.

Second, I wanted to share a bunch of links on the recent changes made to the biology curriculum in France; it now vaguely integrates questions of sexual diversity. And it's been causing outrage amongst our conversative morally-righteous Christian right.
- L'homosexualité enseignée à l'école : une pilule qui passe mal
- Identité sexuelle: Copé soutient les 80 députés UMP
- Manuels scolaires : le mauvais procès des bon chic bon genre
There's repetitions over the three articles, but I wanted to link them all for my own reference. As a sidenote, one of the things that annoy me the most about these articles and this whole fake controversy is that people keep saying that the new textbooks were influenced by gender theory; even if it was true, it's been watered down to the point where it's not only almost impossible to recognize the influence of gender theory, but where gender theory would actually have TONS of issues with the way things are being formulated in the textbooks. But whatever.



Also I forgot yesterday this really interesting article on the sexualization of Casey Anthony, written by one of the bloggers from Tiger Beatdown. "Casey Anthony may have killed her daughter, Casey Anthony made out with a girl at a party–there is no connection between the two ideas. Unless, that is, you buy the idea that being sexual — impermissibly, 'shocking'-ly sexual! In public! With a girl, even! — makes you a monster. Or the idea that, for a woman, enjoying sex is a moral offense that can be fitted onto the same scale of human evil as murdering a toddler. If you buy that, the connection is perfectly clear."
greenie_breizh: (holding life still)
Sun is finally out. Probably only for a couple of days, but considering we had hail yesterday, I'll take even temporary nice weather! It's basically been February here since, well, February, and we're all really, really tired of it.

I just wanted to post a few links quickly; it's going to be a little all over the place but bear with me.

First, a really excellent analysis of sexist discourse in the French media following the whole DSK scandal. Les informulés d’une rhétorique sexiste. It's in French and I wish there was a translation available, because it's fantastically insightful, and not just for French culture.

Some of you may have heard about the story of parents in Toronto raising a 'genderless' kid. You can read the original story (complete with douchy neighbors, friends and family members! I always love the whole 'your kid will get bullied' argument because, y'know, if a kid gets bullied, the problem is not the kids who bully and the parents who teach their kids things that could lead them to be jerks to other kids). But you can also read this reflection on the piece from the Raising My Boychick blog, which is excellent. I only want to point out that while I think it's cool to assume your baby's gender is aligned with their biological sex (assuming that's straightforward) until your kid is old enough to tell you otherwise, it's important that you tell the kid that, directly or at least indirectly. Otherwise you might be the most open-minded parent who'd be totally cool with a trans or gender nonconforming kid, your kid might never know.

While we're on the topic of gender/sexuality, the New York Times recently ran a beautiful series on gay teenagers. The stories are touching, but what really drew me in is the photography. Wonderful and quiet photos.

Now for the unrelated to gender and sexuality stuff:

Allie started a food blog with her friend Katie, The Dough Also Rises - and you should all check it out, because they make really, really delicious food. With simple recipes! Which is always nice (I don't like overly fancy things that I could never reproduce/require ingredients I couldn't find if my life depended on it). Keep an eye out for the yam burrito. SO GOOD.

I may have mentioned (or not) that we're rewatching every Harry Potter movie in expectation for Deathly Hallows Part 2, and it's been great. Harry in the first movie is just the most adorable kid on earth, but it's so great to see all of them grow up. :) And then today [livejournal.com profile] mieystrapurore posted this video, which is amazing. It's just beautifully made, with wonderful music, and it takes you through the whole journey that is the HP series. If you have any attachment to this story, you should watch it. Maybe several times.



And to finish on another pop culture note, I never even mentioned here that The Playboy Club has been picked up by NBC! SO EXCITED to see Sean in there; he's psyched about the storylines that writers have in mind for his character, which makes me even more excited to see it. Let's hope it doesn't get axed by like, episode 3, I'm going to be so upset if that happens. Unless they make a spinoff about Sean's storyline, I'd be down with that.
greenie_breizh: (gay)
As I expected, this month before we leave for Europe is not going to be the most relaxing of times, but I wanted to take a couple of minutes to post some links and acknowledge that yesterday was IDAHO, International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia. I went to the breakfast organized every year by the queer community centre here in Vancouver, and it was pretty good overall - mostly one of the speakers was fabulous. She's a prof at SFU and spoke about her genderqueer son and the fact that we need to stop gender-policing our kids and crush their fluid potential; it was such a touching and compelling speech, I'm glad I went just for it.

Also, I like this comic strip and it's in French, which is a nice change! It comes from this post, even the comments are overall pretty good.

The NYTimes also published this opinion column the other day about why it's problematic to be in favour of same-sex marriages based on economic reasons. Nothing ground-breaking, but a solid and well-written piece, so, worth sharing!

I've finally picked up a book that Allie and I picked up pretty randomly while we were in Seattle, and that Allie just read and highly recommended, Annabel by Kathleen Winter. It's amazing. It's the story of a kid who is born intersex in Labrador, and the writing is fantastic. Allie and I both have issues with how some of the stuff is handled, but it's so worth reading no matter what. It also has this line that I love so much, when the kid is just a baby:

"[The baby] looked back at her the way [the baby] looked at all strangers, with a direct gaze that said, I have not been badly treated yet, and so even you are to be trusted."
greenie_breizh: (gay)
Deux adoptions à l'étranger par des couples homosexuels reconnues en France. (thanks to [livejournal.com profile] semisweetsoul for the info!)

Great news for these couples, and nother small step forward for the possible future recognition of LGBT/queer families, but it actually has fairly little impact for French same-sex couples who currently live and raise their family in France. The situation is growing increasingly ludicrous, as is the case for marriage, where LGB French citizens are actually at a disadvantage when compared to people in transnational situation. Ugh. Here is to more hoping that we finally start treating our LGBT/queer citizens the same as straight citizens and straight couples...
greenie_breizh: (annoyed)
I am really fucking tired of people who express "concerns" over whether or not kids raised by same-sex parents will have their "psychic development" affected. Have we had enough time to figure it out, they say, blah blah BLAH.

1) Look it up, for fuck's sake. We've been studying this for DECADES, so if you're going to have an opinion about this and get offended when someone points out the very question comes from a heterosexist place: look it up. It's not that hard.

2) I hate, hate the normalization that comes with pseudo-psychoanalyst discourses. What the fuck is a normal psychic development, and why would kids with two moms or two dads be less likely to enjoy that? I really wish we would stop cajoling people who ask BS questions by telling them their questions is "legitimate" yet never challenging where the question even comes from. The way we cling to gender differentiation (and the fact that the "two sexes" are complementary) like it's more important than any other aspect of life makes me want to bang my head against the wall.

3) These kids would probably do a LOT BETTER without well-meaning douches to ask them (directly or indirectly, by making it an issue) if they're OK with their parents, if they don't think their family is weird, etc.

That was your mini rant for the day, there might be more (I'm listening to a radio show on homosexuality in France). Ugh, heterosexist attitudes. I'm really losing my patience over here, especially with "well-meaning people" (we all are - who the fuck claims they're proud homophobes anymore). Sorry for the anger, but sometimes, I really feel like I'm done being nice about this kind of shit.
greenie_breizh: (political)
As promised, a bunch of links I've been meaning to share! The personal update might come soon-ish - I'm in the middle of writing my last paper of the term and hopefully I will be done before I head to France at the end of next week. Anyway, on today's menu: queer kids' lives still suck, queer kids are awesome, Canada could make great changes re: gender expression/identity in its legislation, and the Assange sexual assault thing is not so awesome.

- Parents Who Reject Gay Teens Hurt Teens’ Health: Seems pretty 'duh' to me and I'm sure pretty much anyone who knows anything about gay teens, but since we loooove the scientific evidence these days, I guess here it is?

- Study: Gay Teens More Likely to Be Punished: On a similar note, more evidence that it sucks to be a queer kid sometimes in our current society. I definitely do think this story has a lot to do with gender expression, btw, even though they didn't get into that much.

- On a more positive note, check out this video "Rethinking Gender and Sexuality" because it's awesome and pretty much everything I try to tell people, ever. Plus it's a nice reminder that queer youth are (obviously) not just helpless victims but often awesome, resilient, smart youth. :)

- Bill C-389 passed in House of Commons: Bill C-389 (Canada always comes up with the sexiest names for its legislation) is an Act that would amend the Canadian Human Rights Act and the Criminal Code to include gender identity and gender expression. Or: awesome. So let's hope it actually goes through, but this is already a great first step.

- On Assange and "sex by surprise": I don't know how many of you are following the Assange thing (I have to confess I'm not really) but I thought this was a particularly good and thoughtful article on the different perspectives that are at work here when looking at sexual assault: "Making the Assange story juicier blog-bait in the U.S. is the fact that we’re deeply wedded to the notion of rape as forcible; despite many of our best efforts, a consent-based framework for evaluating sexual assault is not yet widely accepted."

- On the same topic, this commentary over at Bitch Magazine is great as well. I particularly like the conclusion, "We can believe that Julian Assange is doing crucial work with Wikileaks while also allowing that he may be capable of violating a sexual partner’s trust and consent. We can believe that political opportunism is at play in Interpol’s pursuit of Assange without assuming that it’s a total frame-up."
greenie_breizh: (Default)
One of these days I will have the time to write something about what's going on in my life, but for now I'll stick to more food for thought:

- Glee's Gay Suicide PSA: It got worse: This article perfectly summarizes why the episode left me with a very bitter taste. Ironically, Allie and I came home to watch that episode right after I'd given a lecture about sexuality and schooling and seriously, I could have used the episode as a perfect example of everything that we're doing wrong about homophobia in schools. Bah. (On a much nicer note, the lecture went awesome and I heard from a number of students that they really enjoyed it. I feel like it was the best one I've given so far.)

- On this topic, I have to link this wonderful blog post by a mom whose 5-year-old boy wanted to dress up as Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween. It's both heartening and maddening to read about the kind of stress a child has to go through when he disrupts gender expectations, but if I can be that great a mom one day, I'll be happy.

- Also, a bunch of people have started a Write Your Principal letter campaign, where basically you commit to sending letters to principals of schools that you've attended growing up, and letting them know that you expect them to do something about homophobia in their schools and to question the heteronormative school culture they might be perpetuating (OK, that last one may be mostly me, but it would be awesome if that was included). This is meant for the U.S. but I would encourage anyone who can to do this. People in schools need to realize that people care even after they graduate, and even when they don't have kids in the school system.

On a totally different note...

- As a follow-up to my last posts, I wanted to post a few links on why the Rally to Restore Sanity was, in some ways, extremely problematic. It's partly the ablism of the title, which is not even where I went first because I sometimes suck at noticing ablism (my own and society's)(thanks to [livejournal.com profile] lounalune for calling me out on it). More generally, I loved this post because it touched on almost everything I had in mind, as someone who very much loves Jon Stewart and his show and yet sometimes feels very ambivalent about it. I particularly love this section, in response to part of the speech that Jon gave at the end of the rally:
“So, why would we work together? Why would you reach across the aisle to a pumpkin assed forehead eyeball monster? If the picture of us were true, our inability to solve problems would actually be quite sane and reasonable. Why would you work with Marxists actively subverting our Constitution or racists and homophobes who see no one’s humanity but their own?”
Why indeed, Jon? Why indeed would you say such things about people on the right, making it impossible to work with them? Except, of course, that it’s not your rights being denied. It’s not you who can’t marry your girlfriend, who when you look down the road at your potential futures see the horror of not being able to protect your assets together, or even be by each other’s side at a hospital bed. It’s not you who have had to fight all your life to get your gender accepted, even grudgingly, as a legal reality, not you who will have whispers following you the rest of your life or who fears to publish things under your own name because it outs your entire life history. It’s not you who worry that you’re getting older and a woman in an industry that is not known for accepting women, not you who are worrying that if you get fired from your job you may never find another one like it.
greenie_breizh: (jon stewart <3)
I should be working (story of my life, ha) but I'm happy with how much I got done this morning so I'm going to take 10 minutes to write that post I've been meaning to write forever. First, some links! Wonderful!

- Black-Grrl Power: Willow Smith and Sesame Street: an article on black hair, started by the recent Sesame Street video featuring a black girl puppet singing about how awesome her hair is. It's a good article, and a nice reminder that racism takes forms that white people sometimes can't even fathom.

- Why Decriminalizing Sex Work is Good for All Women. It's kind of old news by now, but at the end of September, the Ontario Supreme Court struck down Canada's prostitution law (read news article here). Because it is likely to set a precedent, it's a huge step taken towards decriminalization (not to be mistaken with legalization!) of sex work in Canada. And in these Tea Party ridden times, that's almost unbelievably progressive and fantastic. So I'm just going to gleefully quote: "Whore stigma is one clue that anti-prostitution ideology is about more than just violence against women—it’s specifically about femininity. In this sense, arguments against transactional sex are a defense of both the gender binary and of heterosexuality. This is why men and transgender sex workers are invisible in prostitution debates. This is why changing laws is just the beginning, not the end, of a longtime struggle for basic human rights for sex workers."

- A post by Dan Savage on a manifesto written Episcopal Bishop John Shelby's decision to no longer debate the issue of homosexuality in the church with anyone. More than this decision (which has positive and maybe negative sides), the reason I'm posting this is Bishop Shelby's words on "fair-mindness", which is a discourse currently used by media outlets to justify airing the views of profoundly homophobic parties: "In my personal life, I will no longer listen to televised debates conducted by "fair-minded" channels that seek to give "both sides" of this issue "equal time." I am aware that these stations no longer give equal time to the advocates of treating women as if they are the property of men or to the advocates of reinstating either segregation or slavery, despite the fact that when these evil institutions were coming to an end the Bible was still being quoted frequently on each of these subjects. It is time for the media to announce that there are no longer two sides to the issue of full humanity for gay and lesbian people." This is an incredibly powerful statement, and a serious challenge to the way we tend to think about 'freedom of expression'.

- Two links (1, 2) to galleries of photos from Saturday's Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear in D.C. There are many signs amongst these that I feel ambivalent about, but there are true jewels in there, too, including this one, this one, this one, this one or this one. My all-time favorite, though, is this one which I found on Lemonde.fr (#5): "I masturbate and I vote (but not usually at the same time)." And then of course I have a special fondness for geeky signs. :) I have my ambivalence regarding the Rally (most of which has to do with the way that it idealizes moderation, as if this particular political stance - because it is one, whether people like it or not - didn't have its own problems, and consequently the way that rhetoric around the rally has tended to lump together right-wight extremism and left-wing radicalism, which I find infinitely problematic) but in the midst of all the Tea Party insanity absurdity, it does feel good to see people come out and point out the ridiculousness of people who embrace their willful ignorance and refuse to debate reasonably.

- And to finish, a link shared by [livejournal.com profile] shadesofbrixton: a sexual attraction chart. Very neat, not without its problems obviously, but I love the sheer complexity of it. :)

As usual, this has taken me WAY longer than I expected, so I'd better make myself some lunch and go back to the 200 pages I'm supposed to read before 4pm. Haha...ha.

EDIT: I forgot! I went to see The Social Network the other night - I went in being slightly unconvinced but I was truly blown away by the quality of that script. Great, complex characters and super tight dialogue, I did not see those 2 hours go by at all. What did everyone else think?
greenie_breizh: (melancholy)
I still ache when I read tales of teachers bringing up homosexuality/homophobia/heterosexism in their classrooms and face kids who are so reluctant to change their assumptions about heterosexuality being, essentially, better. Partly these stories touch me so much because I've been the one at the front of the class, and because I realize how much needs to be done. I ache because I know, when I read yet another story of a kid who chose to end their life rather than keep going to school, that it's because we still think it's OK to think heterosexuality (and the codes of femininity/masculinity) is just a little more natural, just a little better.

I rant about this constantly but it's because it doesn't go away. It won't go away, for me. I don't really want it to, though. I've been working on a funding application for my PhD project (which is on anti-homophobia education) and I've realized just how much I care about this project and this issue. I want it to be my life's work as much as possible. I want to keep feeling I have to do something about it every time I read about homophobia in schools, and I want to feel like I'm doing something about it. I want to be unapologetic about it, and I don't care about feelings being hurt, not when something so important is at stake.

As Dan Savage said in a fantastic blog post today,
The dehumanizing bigotries that fall from lips of "faithful Christians," and the lies that spew forth from the pulpit of the churches "faithful Christians" drag their kids to on Sundays, give your straight children a license to verbally abuse, humiliate and condemn the gay children they encounter at school. And many of your straight children—having listened to mom and dad talk about how gay marriage is a threat to the family and how gay sex makes their magic sky friend Jesus cry himself to sleep—feel justified in physically attacking the gay and lesbian children they encounter in their schools. You don't have to explicitly "encourage [your] children to mock, hurt, or intimidate" gay kids. Your encouragement—along with your hatred and fear—is implicit. It's here, it's clear, and we can see the fruits of it.

It's not about painting all Christians with the same brush. There are wonderful, activist Christian people out there, who fight against the status quo and the prevalence of hateful, conservative voices in their religion. Some of them are LGBTQ. But it IS about telling people who think they're "nice", who think it's "just" their opinion, people who refuse to face the fact that teaching your children that same-sex couples shouldn't be able to get married or adopt children because they're less good than opposite-sex couples (against all actual evidence, scientific and otherwise) does teach your children that it's OK to tease and mock and undermine people who challenge heterosexual expectations.

Sometimes being faced with well-meaning people is a good start, and it's not about telling everyone to fuck off just because they don't get it. But there's a place for that, too, for expressing unapologetic frustrations and anger and for stepping on toes, because while you're upset that we're saying you're teaching your kids to hate, our kids are being bullied, and schools are doing little about that.


On another 'fuck off' note, France continues to suck (link in French). The Constitutional Council just refused today to strike down a law which stops same-sex couples from being recognized together as legal parents of a child.
greenie_breizh: (together)
Last week, a 15-year-old kid killed himself because he was bullied constantly at school. Much of the bullying was homophobic in nature.

I'm not going to rant about the event or why it's tragic that it happens, over and over, to kids on this continent. Why it's tragic that the reason that our kids do this to each other is because we tell them it's OK, even when we don't say it in so many words.

Dan Savage launched a Youtube video project in response: It Gets Better. The idea is that queer people from all over the United States (and presumably, beyond) can talk about how life gets better once you get out of high school, away from bullies (young and old), away from communities that shame you instead of loving you.

It's a beautiful idea. I love the idea of intergenerational solidarity in the queer community (and it can go both ways), and I like that this moment is for queer adults, young and old, because as complex and slippery as boundaries get between gay and straight, all along the continuum - it's not the same to grow up straight than it is to grow up anything else, and I value the moments where we support each other like family. So I would encourage people to share their stories if they can. (Especially if they're women, especially if you're not white, Christian, able-bodied, middle-class, because it's very easy for certain groups to believe they have the authority to speak across difference.)

But most of all, whatever you can do, help make it so that it doesn't have to get better. So that schools stop becoming such hostile places for kids who are queer, or maybe even just soft-spoken. You have to demand it of people around you, including your legislators and your school administrators, and you have to do it constantly.

Believe me - we notice. And then, it gets better.
greenie_breizh: (political)
Quick additional on Prop 8:

- Full ruling can be read here.
- If you don't have time to read 130+ pages of ruling (ha!), check out this post on Queerty. It sums up all of Judge Walker's arguments by quoting from the ruling, and it's a delight to read Walker's unequivocal language. He doesn't leave a single bone to opponents of same-sex marriage.
- A New Yorker article on the topic. Please link me to any commentary that you read and found particularly compelling and insightful!

This is so satisfying. To a great extent, Prop 8 ruined the Obama win for me; that night is a mix of profound joy (and relief) mixed in with the bitterness of another defeat in the polls (for something - same-sex marriage - that should never even be put to a vote anyway). So regardless of how this does on the 9th Circuit of Appeal and possibly, at the Supreme Court afterwards, this is a beautiful victory. Now let's hope it's not downhill from here.
greenie_breizh: (political)
Same-sex marriage is about to become legal in Argentina. (Article en français / English article, whose choice of picture I find doubtful.)

Every time something like this happens, France's refusal to give its own citizens the rights that it recognizes for other couples (and that an increasing number of countries are recognizing) becomes more and more ridiculous and shameful.

Alain Piriou a d'ailleurs rédigé un très bon article sur son blog, à propos du cas du couple bi-national dont la co-parentalité a été reconnue, le même jour où deux françaises se voyaient réfuser la même chose. A lire absolumen: Homoparentalité : la Cour de cassation face aux limites de la loi.

(J'aime bien aussi son article sur les problèmes de diversité même dans les entreprises qui se disent "en avance" sur le sujet.)
greenie_breizh: (gay)
And in gay news:

- A French court allowed for a child to have two parents of the same sex by recognizing an adoption validated by an American court of a child by his mom's female partner. I want to say ABOUT TIME and at the same time, it's such a small step forward. Fuck, I can't wait for French legislation to get over itself re: gay stuff. What's craziest is that the courts still won't recognize this between French citizens, so a binational same-sex couple has more chances of having their family recognized. WTF.

- Mass. Federal Judge Strikes Down Federal Ban on Gay Marriage. It was a long time coming, I feel. Between that and the Prop 8 momentum, the horizon might look a little brighter than I thought.

But if the U.S. legalizes same-sex marriage before France does, I'm going to be so pissed off.
greenie_breizh: (clothesless)
Oh, yeah, also:

Please everyone lament this reality TV awfulness with me. >.> And let's take a moment to think about who this "we" is supposed to be...

I'm disappointed that none of them seem to own cats.
greenie_breizh: (political)
Three links with a lot of overlap, but they all add some details, like quotes, etc, so if you're interested, it's worth reading all three:

Yahoo!News's Lawyers give final arguments in gay marriage case

OMTD_political's Where's the Evidence? Judge Asks Proposition 8 Supporters

The NY Times's Closing Arguments in Marriage Trial

Of course, the comment section is full of idiots who make claims that are either illogical or cannot be backed up with evidence... but whatever. Overall it sounds like the judge is really taking the defendants' lawyer to task, which he should, because there's no good rational reason to back up discrimination in this case. While I ultimately agree with the plaintiffs' lawyer that justice shouldn't come down to whether or not public opinion is ready for this, I do see why the judge would worry that a decision in favoring of overturning Prop 8 might stiffen opposition when trends show that overtime people are becoming used to the idea that same-sex marriage should be legal. That said, if we waited for public opinion to change completely for these kinds of things, we could be waiting for ages, and there is a point where discriminatory practices need to be addressed, period.

Point is... it will be interesting to see how the judge rules. I think there is a really good chance that he will rule against Prop 8.

I'm going to spare you going over every single argument that the defense attorney made and pulling them apart, I've been over all of them too many times before, but I need to comment on one thing. This?
The plaintiffs say there is no way to understand why anyone would support Proposition 8, would support the traditional definition of marriage, except through some irrational or dark motivation," Cooper said. "That is not just a slur on the 7 million Californians who supported Proposition 8. It's a slur on 70 of 108 judges who have upheld as rational the decision of voters and legislatures to preserve the traditional definition of marriage."
Is bullshit. I'm so tired of this attitude - I really really fucking hate when social conservatives not only expect us to engage with their prejudiced view, but get offended when we call them prejudiced. Yes, this is exactly what Prop 8 was - a prejudiced piece of legislation. Does that mean everyone who voted in favor of Prop 8 is a bad person? Of course not. Does that mean they hate gay people? Not necessarily, though most likely if you probe they think that gay people are not quite as great for society as straight people. But yes, opposing same-sex marriage is prejudiced and irrational; over the years, I have become convinced that the anti-same-sex-marriage view is not a view that can be sustained by rational arguments. (Religious arguments, yes, but we're not discussing religious marriage here.) It would be easier if prejudice was always about malice, but it's not. Most people who voted against Prop 8 were convinced by arguments based on fear and illogical reasoning, but that may have been convincing when it panders to deeply-ingrained heterosexist beliefs - prejudiced beliefs that are anchored so deep in us, from so early on, that we don't necessarily know when these prejudices get activated. It's work to come to recognize heterosexism, and it's work that we don't encourage a whole lot. So of course people would be convinced. It's always easier (and less scary) to be convinced by the status quo.
greenie_breizh: (gay)
So I was hoping to find a children's book in French featuring two dads or a gay couple, but apparently that's... nearly impossible? The few children's book on the topic tend to feature two moms, and I have problems with most of them anyway. I just wanted a children's book with two dads about something that's not discrimination. :/ Like King & King is actually pretty awesome, but it doesn't exist in French? Le sigh.

For those of you on twitter who were asking for references should I find something, so far the best list I've found is on the APGL website.

On a cute note, the other night we were playing the Werewolf game with my cousins and we were playing with the Cupid character, who chooses two players who will be "in love" for the rest of the game. My brother (I think) reminded everyone the couple doesn't have to be a boy and a girl and my 13-year-old cousin agreed and said, yeah, it can be two girls or two boys. I'm not certain he really made the link with actual gay couples but I liked how matter-of-fact he was about it. :)
greenie_breizh: (kiss)
In the midst of everything else... I look at this photo and feel a little bit better. I mean friends, smiles, kisses and activism, what's not to love?


Existrans' 2009 (photo: Amaury Grisel)


All right, back to the fake research proposal.
greenie_breizh: (gay)
U.S. federal hate crimes bill has passed the Senate and now goes to Obama to be signed into law. (There is no reason to believe he won't sign it.) (It passed the House earlier this month, FYI.)

It seems to be the version that includes both sexual orientation and gender identity as protected categories? Which would be awesome. It was passed as attached to a larger defense bill that I don't really want to look into because I'm afraid the content will me make me angry, so. For now I'll just say:

Good job, America, it was about time.

Now let's turn our attention to the real problem, which is that hate crimes are still happening and boys can be shot at school by classmates for transgressing heteronormative boundaries.

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