Dec. 13th, 2010

greenie_breizh: (current crush)
It's kind of a weird feeling where different "lives" crash into each other, as they do sometimes. I'm in the midst of writing a paper and really focused on getting it done, so I wasn't really procrastinating but I checked LJ earlier and learned that Z and V have split up, which took me totally out of work zone for a moment. I don't have much to say, I don't know much about it anyway (my online life has taken a serious hit in the past year or so!), but it made me want to reiterate something I said last year when I was rambling about them as a couple.

As much as I hope that they continue to be happy together for a long time (as it seems to be what makes them happy), I think if they ever break up it won't diminish for one second what they had. It won't diminish their relationship, and it won't touch the way they smile at each other, look at each other, support each other, and love each other today. It won't make it any less beautiful or any less amazing. I wish we would think more about how the important thing is to be happy – to look back at a relationship, whether you're still in it or not, and be able to say, yeah, I was happy. I had an amazing time. How long it lasted, how many people were involved, what gender they were, what the rules were – that's not as important, or rather it's going to work differently for different people. But being happy, whatever that looks like for the people around us, I think maybe that's something we can strive for and hope for, and something that doesn't have to involuntarily reinforce dominant ideals of what happiness looks like.

I don't always look back at my own writing and think I had a good point, but on this one, I think maybe I did. The break-up (if indeed it is true and it lasts) sounds amicable, which I hope is true for both their sake, and I think as people who watch on, in this strange (and even more strangely, compelling) celebrity culture, the best thing we can do is recognize that they had something that looked beautiful, they had it for many years, and the fact that they no longer do doesn't diminish any of it.

This whole thing is making me want to write more, but I have to try and channel that into actual work. So that's all for now.


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